7 Habits of Happy Kids
The 7 Habits of Happy Kids Character Traits Ways to Support at School
Leading Yourself -
Habit 1: Be Proactive You're in Charge. I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions, attitudes, and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking. Character Traits - Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Hope, Perseverance, Responsibility
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Have a Plan. I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom and contribute to my school’s mission and vision. I look for ways to be a good citizen. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Justice and Fairness. Perseverance, Responsibility
Grades/Goals and Making Steps to Reach Goal:
1.Students Creating Goals &/or Knowing Goals
2.Leadership Binders or Notebooks
3.Reading a Test or Worksheet Before Working
4. Dojo Goals
5. Class and School Mission Statement
Habit 3: Put First Things First Work First, Then Plan. I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I know I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am disciplined and organized. Character Traits - Courage, Perseverance, Responsibility, Creating Checklist, If, Then Charts, Homework, Timers, Schedules
Leading Others -
Habit 4: Think Win-Win Everyone Can Win. I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others’ Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives.
Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Justice and Fairness, Respect, Responsibility
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Listen Before You Talk. I listen to other people’s ideas and feelings. I try to see things from their viewpoints. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident in voicing my ideas. I look people in the eyes when talking. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Justice and Fairness, Respect
Habit 6: Synergize Together Is Better. I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than anyone of us can alone. I am humble. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Hope, Justice and Fairness, Perseverance, Respect, Responsibility,
Group Work, Partner Work, Reading to Someone, Recess
Taking Care of Yourself-
Habit 7 — Sharpen The Saw Balance Feels Best. I take care of my body by eating right, exercising and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. I find meaningful ways to help others. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Honesty, Hope, Responsibility, Active Dolphins, Clubs. Brain Breaks, Fruits and Veggie Challenge
Leading Yourself -
Habit 1: Be Proactive You're in Charge. I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions, attitudes, and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking. Character Traits - Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Hope, Perseverance, Responsibility
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Have a Plan. I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom and contribute to my school’s mission and vision. I look for ways to be a good citizen. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Justice and Fairness. Perseverance, Responsibility
Grades/Goals and Making Steps to Reach Goal:
1.Students Creating Goals &/or Knowing Goals
2.Leadership Binders or Notebooks
3.Reading a Test or Worksheet Before Working
4. Dojo Goals
5. Class and School Mission Statement
Habit 3: Put First Things First Work First, Then Plan. I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I know I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am disciplined and organized. Character Traits - Courage, Perseverance, Responsibility, Creating Checklist, If, Then Charts, Homework, Timers, Schedules
Leading Others -
Habit 4: Think Win-Win Everyone Can Win. I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others’ Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives.
Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Justice and Fairness, Respect, Responsibility
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Listen Before You Talk. I listen to other people’s ideas and feelings. I try to see things from their viewpoints. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident in voicing my ideas. I look people in the eyes when talking. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Courage, Honesty, Justice and Fairness, Respect
Habit 6: Synergize Together Is Better. I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than anyone of us can alone. I am humble. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Hope, Justice and Fairness, Perseverance, Respect, Responsibility,
Group Work, Partner Work, Reading to Someone, Recess
Taking Care of Yourself-
Habit 7 — Sharpen The Saw Balance Feels Best. I take care of my body by eating right, exercising and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. I find meaningful ways to help others. Character Traits - Caring, Citizenship, Honesty, Hope, Responsibility, Active Dolphins, Clubs. Brain Breaks, Fruits and Veggie Challenge
Parents, you are your child's first and best teacher.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Part of being proactive is stopping to think before we act. Sometimes, we react to a situation immediately, without taking time to think about the results of our actions.
Role-play different situations with your child that will provide them the opportunity to think before they act.
Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind
Having an end in mind helps your child be able to have a purpose for their goal and for the specific steps that will help them achieve it.
As a family (or with an individual child), choose an area that needs improvement. The area of improvement, or the broad goal, becomes your end in mind. Then think of specific steps that will lead to achieving this goal.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Putting First Things First means to decide what is most important and to take care of that first. Thinking about what needs to be done tomorrow or by the end of the week can be overwhelming, especially for children. Learning to think of which things are the most important and taking care of them first allows children (and adults) to be less stressed.
A planner is a great organizational tool to write down and plan ahead for what is most important. Help your child find and use a simple planner. This could be one you buy at the store or a simple notebook that your child decorates.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Thinking Win-Win is the belief that everyone can win. It’s not you or me—it’s both of us. By working with your child to come up with a solution, will help you both be happier in the situation and work through the conflict better each time.
Think of an ongoing conflict you tend to have with your child (homework, cleaning his or her room, feeding the dog) and then discuss a win-win solution to the conflict. Write down the solution and then remind each other of it the next time the situation arises.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Seeking First to Understand, Then to Be Understood means that it is better to listen first and talk second. This habit is taught best by introducing listening as a skill that should be practiced.
You can teach listening skills to your children by modeling effective listening. With an older child, you can talk to him or her about an issue you always argue about and say, “Help me understand your point of view.” Then really listen without interruptions. When your child is finished, repeat in your own words what you heard until he or she acknowledges feeling understood. Then it’s your turn to speak and your child’s turn to listen.
Habit 6: Synergize
Synergy is when two or more people work together to create a better solution than either would have thought of alone. Use this activity to see if you can reach a better solution than either of you would have come up with alone.With your children, choose a problem you may have (dividing family responsibilities, keeping track of homework completion, following curfew) and use the Synergy Action Plan to summarize your child’s solution and your solution:
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Sharpening the Saw is about having balance in all areas of your life. Talk with your child about areas of his or her life that might be out of balance and find ways to put more focus on that area.
For younger children, you could develop a “Sharpen the Saw” activity center in your home that includes arts and crafts supplies, puzzles, classical music and books.
Physical activity is also an important part of finding balance. Find something fun and active you and your children can do together such as riding bikes, going on a hike or participating in a sport.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Part of being proactive is stopping to think before we act. Sometimes, we react to a situation immediately, without taking time to think about the results of our actions.
Role-play different situations with your child that will provide them the opportunity to think before they act.
Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind
Having an end in mind helps your child be able to have a purpose for their goal and for the specific steps that will help them achieve it.
As a family (or with an individual child), choose an area that needs improvement. The area of improvement, or the broad goal, becomes your end in mind. Then think of specific steps that will lead to achieving this goal.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Putting First Things First means to decide what is most important and to take care of that first. Thinking about what needs to be done tomorrow or by the end of the week can be overwhelming, especially for children. Learning to think of which things are the most important and taking care of them first allows children (and adults) to be less stressed.
A planner is a great organizational tool to write down and plan ahead for what is most important. Help your child find and use a simple planner. This could be one you buy at the store or a simple notebook that your child decorates.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Thinking Win-Win is the belief that everyone can win. It’s not you or me—it’s both of us. By working with your child to come up with a solution, will help you both be happier in the situation and work through the conflict better each time.
Think of an ongoing conflict you tend to have with your child (homework, cleaning his or her room, feeding the dog) and then discuss a win-win solution to the conflict. Write down the solution and then remind each other of it the next time the situation arises.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Seeking First to Understand, Then to Be Understood means that it is better to listen first and talk second. This habit is taught best by introducing listening as a skill that should be practiced.
You can teach listening skills to your children by modeling effective listening. With an older child, you can talk to him or her about an issue you always argue about and say, “Help me understand your point of view.” Then really listen without interruptions. When your child is finished, repeat in your own words what you heard until he or she acknowledges feeling understood. Then it’s your turn to speak and your child’s turn to listen.
Habit 6: Synergize
Synergy is when two or more people work together to create a better solution than either would have thought of alone. Use this activity to see if you can reach a better solution than either of you would have come up with alone.With your children, choose a problem you may have (dividing family responsibilities, keeping track of homework completion, following curfew) and use the Synergy Action Plan to summarize your child’s solution and your solution:
- Define the problem.
- Share your views.
- Think of solutions.
- Choose the best solution together.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Sharpening the Saw is about having balance in all areas of your life. Talk with your child about areas of his or her life that might be out of balance and find ways to put more focus on that area.
For younger children, you could develop a “Sharpen the Saw” activity center in your home that includes arts and crafts supplies, puzzles, classical music and books.
Physical activity is also an important part of finding balance. Find something fun and active you and your children can do together such as riding bikes, going on a hike or participating in a sport.